Stephanie Jane recenzis Secrets We Kept de Krystal A. Sital
An important memoir
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Secrets We Kept is an amazingly powerful memoir of one Trinidad family told through the brutal experiences of three generations of women. It is an intensely personal story and one which must have been so painful for Sital to write, yet through the attitudes and reactions (or, more honestly, the lack of reaction) of other people close to Rebecca, Arya and Krystal, I soon came to understand that their situation couldn't have been unique within this community. We never find out the source of Shiva's irrational anger and violence towards his wife and children. As a reader, I was fascinated by the different personas the man could project depending on his audience at the time.
Domestic violence is becoming a topic which can be discussed openly, but for all the women still trapped by it, Secrets We Kept is a perfect illustration of why publicly funded women's refuges are such …
Secrets We Kept is an amazingly powerful memoir of one Trinidad family told through the brutal experiences of three generations of women. It is an intensely personal story and one which must have been so painful for Sital to write, yet through the attitudes and reactions (or, more honestly, the lack of reaction) of other people close to Rebecca, Arya and Krystal, I soon came to understand that their situation couldn't have been unique within this community. We never find out the source of Shiva's irrational anger and violence towards his wife and children. As a reader, I was fascinated by the different personas the man could project depending on his audience at the time.
Domestic violence is becoming a topic which can be discussed openly, but for all the women still trapped by it, Secrets We Kept is a perfect illustration of why publicly funded women's refuges are such vital places. Rebecca cannot escape Shiva because she has absolutely nowhere else to go. Her authentically rendered speech, when she eventually feels safe enough to begin to talk, is heartbreaking to read. Sital perfectly captures the impossibility of satisfying familial obligations while also preserving oneself. To understand what Rebecca endured is bad enough, but then for me to realise that her initial decision to leave her home for Shiva was aspirational was shocking. She managed to gain material advantages for her children, but at a terrible cost and I was horrified at the adult children's treatment of Rebecca once it became clear that Shiva needed constant nursing care. Did they have no empathy for their mother at all?
Sital's inclusion of phonetically written Trini patois for Rebecca and Arya's speech was inspired and I loved how the language transported me directly to their island home. I didn't find it at all difficult to read once I began to actually hear their voices. Away from Shiva's oppression, Trinidad sounds such a beautiful place so the contrast between those two aspects of the story is especially effective. I think that Secrets We Kept is an incredibly important memoir of the lasting effects of domestic violence and how its aftermath lingers to affect more people than just its immediate victims. It's also a moving story of a dysfunctional and fragmented family, only three of whom manage to reconnect in a meaningful way.